May 23, 2025

Ungodly Indicators #5: Unforgiveness

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Have you ever found it hard to let go of a hurt or forgive someone who has wronged you? In today’s episode of My Morning Devotional, hosts Gaby Alessi wrap up their transformative "Ungodly Indicators" series by exploring the weighty topic of unforgiveness. Together, we’ll learn how holding onto past hurts can affect our relationships, isolate us from others, and even hinder our spiritual growth. Gaby offers practical steps for breaking free from the grip of unforgiveness and leads us to a place of healing and restoration through God’s guidance.

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You're listening to the My Morning Devotional podcast, episode 1275. Today's Devo is called Ungodly Indicators Part 5. Hey there. We're the Alessies, a ministry family working together in our church in Miami, Florida. And if you're like us, when days get busy and to do lists get longer, it can be hard to find devotional time.

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That's why we've partnered with our friend Alison to produce a five minute daily dose of heaven. This is the My Morning Devotional Podcast. Well, we've made it to the end of the week. We are wrapping up our Ungodly Indicators series.

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And I have never said that word so many times in my entire life. So I hope you were blessed this week and I have so enjoyed recording all of these, sharing these with you. This is revelation that I'm still processing and I've been processing and so I hope it blessed you and I encourage you. If you are listening on Spotify, if you're listening on Apple Music, wherever you're listening, or even if you're on Instagram, please DM us and share with us or comment Share with me. Your indicator that spoke out to you the most, the indicator that you were like, whoa, this hit me like a ton of bricks.

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And this was my indicator because I just like some feedback and I'd like to know what everybody is kind of processing. So that would be a blessing for me.

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We're going to jump into the last indicator which let's do it head on. Today's indicator is

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14 says, for if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

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He's a mental health like advocate and therapist. He says unforgiveness. He talks about it like this. He says, unforgiveness is like being on a giant hook next to you. On the hook is the person who has hurt you. The hook is extremely painful.

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Wherever you go, so does the hook and so does the offender. The only way you can get off the hook is if you allow the offender off first. The cost of not allowing the offender off the hook is perhaps a lifetime of unhappiness. Unforgiveness is a hook. I want us to think about it. If someone puts a hook onto your pant buckle, right? You have your jeans or whatever pants that you wear. Imagine just putting a hook on you, the side of your pants. And what this is saying is it's Like a hook where you are hooked on and on the other side of the hook is the person that hurt you. You see, with unforgiveness, it's not just a one stop shop. It's not like unforgiveness doesn't lead to anything.

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I do believe there's a path of unforgiveness. The first part of that path, what starts you down the road is number one, the hurt.

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What got you on the hook in the first place. Right? The hurt could be maybe a spouse that left you or cheated on you and hurt you. The thing, the person that vowed to love you, didn't do that vow, they didn't live up to that and it hurt you and you can, you'll never be able to recover. Or so you think.

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The hurt can be a dad or a parent left you, it left the family, left you leaving, or left you wanting that relationship. But still to this day, you've never been able to have that relationship with that parent or with that loved one. The hurt could be a boss that lets you go, that you trusted in as a provider, but they let you go and you didn't even really understand it and it was a negative way and you've just never been able to forgive them. The hurt when you hold onto it and you don't deal with it, leads to unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is when you don't deal with the hurt, you don't let it go, you're holding onto it. That's the hook. Unforgiveness is the hook. Well, when we don't get over it and we don't lay it down and we don't forgive that person, what ends up happening is we build an offense. I love the word offense because it's a literal fence. And when there's a fence in your heart and in your life, you only see through things, through the fence, you see things through offense.

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This is even going back to what we were saying about frustration. Frustration and offense work hand in hand. You can only see things through fence, your offense. So you have a marriage that didn't work out and you're angry at that man. Sometimes when we are offended and we're holding onto it, we see all marriages and all relationships through that offense.

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We're hurt by the father that never came and had a relationship with us. So for us to understand that God is a father, it's a difficult thing for us to grasp because we see all father figures through the lens of the offense that we have at our earthly Father.

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So when unforgiveness isn't dealt with, we build an offense, and then the offense leads to isolation. We push everybody away. This is what unforgiveness will do to us. When we don't let it go and we don't forgive, we'll find ourselves isolated. I thought about this the other day. The reasons for unforgiveness are different, but the results of unforgiveness is the same. So you might be going through unforgiveness and holding onto it, and it's different from the reason why I'm not forgiving somebody. It's a different type of situation, but our results will be the same. We will find ourselves isolated. We will find ourselves alone, pushing people away. And all we're doing is we are left with our hurt. So today is the day that we experience freedom and we forgive those that are around us.

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Because the Bible's telling us here, if we forgive people, our Father will forgive us. And I think we forget the power of forgiveness. And Jesus says it, if we don't forgive, how can God forgive you? He actually says, if you don't forgive, your father won't forgive you. But I want to say it in a kinder way because it is hard, a hard pill to swallow. Forgive others and your father will forgive you. So I'm going to leave you with these three points of how can we forgive today? This is quick. This is too fast for me to even go into because it's just too deep. But I'm going to give you a teaser. And if we like more on this thing about forgiveness, then you let me know later. But number one, if you need to forgive, number one, go and make it right. Some of us have had a situation where we got to go to that person. We either need to apologize to them for holding on to the unforgiveness, or we need to clear the air.

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If there's an elephant there, go and make it right with that person. Number two, you got to give them to God. We got to let go of them. We can't hold on to this hurt. We can't hold on to this frustration forever. We got to give them to the Lord. They are his anyways. And number three, pray for them. You can't pray for someone you don't like, so pray for them.

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Pray that the Lord would bless them and keep them. Pray that the Lord would protect them and provide for them and prosper them. Can I pray for you today? Lord, I thank you for today. I thank you for this week. I thank you for the indicators that you graciously give us in our lives as a course correction. I know this week was a lot for us to receive and it's too much for five minutes a day.

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But Father, I pray that the Holy Spirit would use these five minutes a day, maybe even seven minutes on some episodes to speak to all of us and send us indicators and signs, Lord of maybe the areas that were not pleasing you and I pray that it would lead us to a life that glorifies and pleases you. I thank you for it Lord. In Jesus name I pray Amen and Amen.

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